As previously stated on my homepage, I have recently become more aware of everything I have achieved and everything I have. In an effort to become more positive and to remind myself why I’m doing this I’ve started opening myself up to the idea of Law of Attraction and what it has to offer. I’ve begun listening to a couple of podcasts on the matter (mainly when I remember). Rest assured I’m not here to discuss what the Law of Attraction can do for you, nor am I saying anything along of the lines how ‘The Secret’ has changed my life. What I am saying is the Law of Attraction requires a mindset of positivity, optimism and the point of this little food for thought: gratefulness.
Of late, I’ve been starting to think about and notice that conversations I am having with some people/ the odd ones I overhear are full of complaints, negativity and they focus on what someone else has or has achieved. Whilst it is so super important to have someone that you can go to with troubles, issues and when you just need to vent; the question that I have been finding myself asking lately is: are we actually grateful?
When listening to the very first episode of The Power of Your Mind podcast I was asked to think about and write down 10 things that I was grateful for in my life. Now, I was walking the dog so I was not able to write anything down…but boy I was able to think. As I walked I was able to list 10 seemingly simple (what feels like ‘insignificant’) things that I am happy about. Things like a car, renting a house, employment, the dog, my fiance…all those things that seem insignificant not because they mean less to me over anything else but insignificant because well people my age most likely already have them, so, of course so should I; that’s not an achievement, is it?
As I kept walking I found myself easily thinking about negative aspects of the things I was meant to be grateful for: cars can break down, renting comes with rent (duh) and bills, employment sucks when I don’t want to get out of bed or if the workday is particularly hard, my fiance and I sometimes fight and the dog…nope she’s actually perfect (standard pet owner response)<3. The 10 things I listed as something I was grateful for easily became topics that I could complain about.
The more I thought, the more I started to wonder if we really are grateful for that we have BEFORE something happens that makes us ‘realise’ that what we have is something to be grateful for.
As a society, we have become so wrapped up in how many likes we have on social media, on whether someone’s success was better than our own, how big our house/car is and if we are fitter, skinnier, faster, smarter or richer than someone else. Don’t get me wrong, competitiveness can be good, it can be great in fact, it is how we strive to become better, richer, faster, fitter but when did we stop striving to become happy by doing what we found joy in and when did we stop being grateful?
Why can we not look at everything we have and be grateful that whilst we may not have more money than some, we, in fact, have money, we’re a size 12 instead of a size 8 but at least we have not been diagnosed with a rare disease that has no cure, our car is not a Mercedes but at least we have a car…you get what I’m trying to say.
We all have problems. There’s always going to be something more we want and someone is ALWAYS going to have something we want. I get that. But maybe we don’t focus on that anymore? Maybe we focus on being more positive; perhaps, we can help others find positivity? I’m not asking that from this moment on you only feel happy and you don’t take issues or concerns seriously and when something does go wrong, you should be upset about it. What I’m asking anyone reading this to do is to write down what they are grateful for, it can be in the comments, it can be in your own blog, write it in a memo on your phone.
It’s up to you where you write it but actually, take a moment to remember everything you have instead of everything you don’t have. Be grateful for the family and friends that love you. Be happy that you have a roof over your head and food in your belly. Strive for something in your life, not because someone else has it but because it is going to make you happy, you might actually surprise yourself, you may even find a new passion.
Be sad, angry and hurt when sad and hurtful things happen; but don’t let them define who you are, where you’re going or anything you’re doing in life. Please.
Now go make a list of 10 things you are grateful for, remember them, thinking about them, talk about them and then go give someone a hug. Be the person someone will be grateful for today. Find something to be grateful for every day. To bring positive change, we must first be positive. I have faith in you.